Personal Development

JS Tip 162: From the Time Management and Goal-setting Workshops: Comfort and Control

We suggest this principle:

The more control we have over the events in our lives, the more comfortable we are with our lives.

Or, in other words, our degree of comfort relates directly to our degree of control.

A couple of thoughts here:

We’re talking control of events here; not control of people. “Control of people” is filled with problems. We won’t go there.

We grow frustrated when we feel we have no control: “Aaaccckkk! Everything’s out of control!”

So what do we do?

A couple of suggestions here:

Start Scheduling. Make a list. Identify the tasks you want to get done in a day and post a deadline for each task. Focus on the tasks. Meet the deadlines. Make it a game.  

Learn to politely say “No.” “I’m sorry, but I can’t do that. I have another commitment.” (Your commitment is to get your tasks done.)

Even in small steps, the more control we have, the more comfortable we are.   

If you have questions, comments, or arguments, let us know. We appreciate your comments. We love this stuff.

Next week: We’ll stay with time management and goal setting. We’ll talk about procrastination.